If you were asked to describe how the holiday season feels in one word, you’d probably think of joy, peace, or magic. That’s the image we all want to create, and it’s what we see online and in holiday movies. But if we’re honest, the days leading up to Hanukkah, Christmas, and Kwanzaa usually feel far from peaceful. Between shopping, decorating, parties and more, this season ends up being one of the most chaotic times of the year — rivaled only by the end of the school year or moving to a new duty station. Let’s not even talk about when the holidays line up with a PCS!
In the military, we’re known for pulling together as a family. We often say “my military family” because we lean on each other and share a deep bond.
During this busy time, it’s easy to focus so much on making the holidays special for our own families that we miss opportunities to spread extra joy and peace to others in our military community who could use it most. Families with deployed service members and Gold Star families might especially need a little lift this season. Small, simple gestures can make a big difference in brightening their holidays.
So, who do you know with a deployed spouse, or a Gold Star spouse who could use a reminder that they’re not alone? Here are a few thoughtful gift ideas to bring a little comfort and joy to them this season.
Cozy Socks and Herbal Tea
Imagine them curled up on the couch with cozy socks, sipping on chamomile tea after a long day. This simple gift offers comfort, warmth, and a moment to unwind.
Essential Oils and Diffuser
Essential oils make a wonderful gift. They’re a safe alternative to candles, especially in homes with young children, and can help create a relaxing atmosphere. Lavender, eucalyptus, or peppermint are popular choices for calming scents. If the recipient has pets, just make sure to research which essential oils might be best to avoid for the animals' safety.
Scented Candle and Book
A carefully chosen candle scent paired with a favorite book shows thoughtfulness. It’s not just a gift, but a way to say, “I know you” or, “I took the time to find something you’d enjoy.” This combo offers a moment to escape and unwind.
Adult Coloring Book with Markers or Colored Pencils
Coloring can be surprisingly therapeutic! An adult coloring book with intricate designs or fun themes is a calming way to decompress. This trendy gift can provide some quiet time and creativity away from holiday stress.
Bath Bomb and Spa Pillow
Help them soak away stress with a luxurious bath bomb and a spa pillow. Bath bombs often come with essential oils that promote relaxation, offering a small escape from daily demands.
Handcrafted Ornament and Personalized Note
A small, meaningful ornament with a handwritten note can go a long way to show you’re thinking of them. This thoughtful token is something they can cherish each year, a little reminder of the care in your military family.
Cozy Blanket and Movie Snacks
Bring comfort to their holidays with a cozy blanket and movie-night snacks. Pair this with a classic holiday movie recommendation for a night of relaxation, warmth, and nostalgia.
For Military Husbands
Our male military spouses may experience the same holiday stress and loneliness as female spouses, though they may not talk about it as often. Here are some gift ideas just for them:
- Craft Beer or Coffee Gift Box: Whether they’re a beer or coffee enthusiast, a sampler box with unique local or seasonal varieties can make a thoughtful gift.
- Mini-Toolkit or Multi-Tool: This practical gift shows appreciation for their resourcefulness and is something they can use all year.
- Portable Bluetooth Speaker: For those who enjoy music, a high-quality portable speaker can bring some joy and relaxation into their space, wherever they go.
- Sports Team Beanie and Warm Gloves: A cozy nod to their favorite team can make them feel seen and appreciated, especially if they’re missing game days with friends.
Bigger Gestures
Beyond gifts, there are simple actions that can help make this season brighter for solo military spouses. Offer to take the kids out for a few hours to give Mom or Dad a much-needed break. Invite the family over for a cookie decorating night or a holiday movie marathon. Sometimes, these shared experiences are the best gifts we can give.
Let’s remember to be the family our military community can count on, in big ways and small ones. It’s the season to bring joy and peace to those around us — and that kindness can have a lasting impact.
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