Why Your Time in Service Shouldn’t Be Your Glory Years

The 35th Commandant of the Marine Corps, Gen. James F. Amos, addresses service members aboard Marine Corps Base Quantico, Virginia.
The 35th Commandant of the Marine Corps, Gen. James F. Amos, addresses Marines of India Company at The Basic School (TBS) at Heywood Hall aboard Marine Corps Base Quantico in Quantico, Virginia, May 14, 2013. (Sgt. Mallory S. VanderSchans/U.S. Marine Corps photo)

This article originally appeared on Task & Purpose, a digital news and culture publication dedicated to military and veterans issues.

So you've finally left the military. You've completed your service honorably, be that four years or 20. You've sacrificed plenty and watched others do the same or more. You've been there, done that and gotten more T-shirts than can fit in your closet.

That doesn't mean you have to wear those T-shirts every day.

The memories those T-shirts recall aren't the best days of your life. Or at least they don't have to be.

Too many vets are trapped in a military version of the old Bruce Springsteen song "Glory Days." Like the song's pitcher and pretty girl, too many veterans are stuck reminiscing over beers, talking about the old times and exchanging boring stories.

The point isn't that those memories aren't important, aren't precious, but that life going forward is far more important than life looking back.

Too many veterans, in person and in social media, state that the best years of their lives were the ones they spent in the service. While a touching sentiment, veterans who say this are selling themselves short.

Too many vets embrace what might be called the "Professional Veteran" identity. Having beers with old buddies doesn't make one a professional veteran. Going to the VFW or a Veterans Day parade doesn't make one a professional veteran. Living the rest of one's life looking back at the portion spent in the service does.

Those days spent in the service aren't, or shouldn't be, the high point of your life. The rest of your life is. Current life expectancy in the United States is 78.8 years. Spending 50 of them looking backward is wasting those years. Even if those years in the service end up being the best years of your life, lingering on them excessively is just taking the luster off one's golden years.

I recently spent a very long couple of hours near an older man on an airplane. Not World War II, Korean War or Vietnam War old, just an older man, yet he wore a Marine Corps satin jacket, USMC baseball cap and a cane carved with Marine Corps symbols from handle to tip. All due to four years in the Corps in the early 1980s.

Luckily for me, there was a young devil dog straight out of boot camp next to him to absorb his stories about the old days. This man had 30 years of life since the Marine Corps to talk about. He could've bent that young Marine's ear about how the Marine Corps taught him to make the most of the rest of his life, likely with a second career, a wife, kids and probably grandkids. Yet he couldn't get past tales of the "Old Corps."

Don't be an Uncle Rico from "Napoleon Dynamite", living in a van and bragging about the glory days of yesteryear. Even if the military was the formative experience of your life, it was only forming you and preparing you for bigger things.

What those things are doesn't really matter. For some, it may mean climbing the corporate ladder. For others, it may mean building a family. For others, it may mean public service or growing in faith or charitable works. Whatever it is, the military prepared you for it, be it by giving you the leadership skills you needed or by giving you the self-discipline that raising children and so many other things in life require.

The military wasn't the culminating point of your life. If it was, then you need to take a long, hard look at what you're doing. If those four years, or 20 years, were the best of your life, then fix the rest of your life. You have far more to give to the world than your time in uniform.

Raise your kids. Do your new job well. Go help the homeless. Do whatever. Save your reminiscing about your time in uniform for when you see your old crew.

Ronald Reagan famously said, "Some people spend an entire lifetime wondering if they made a difference in the world. But the Marines don't have that problem." That's definitely true, not just for Marines, but for all veterans who served honorably.

You made a difference in uniform. Just don't let that be the only difference you make.

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